The Cost of Being Chosen

What If Taking Care of Yourself Wasn’t Selfish, But Sacred?

And what if the guilt you feel about resting, saying no, or taking up space was never actually yours?

You’ve been the good girl. The one who helps. The one who holds it all together.

But somewhere in there, you forgot how to hold yourself.

Because self-care? That still feels selfish. Like asking for too much. Like stepping out of line.

It’s not just you. I heard it again the other day - from a woman at the dentist’s office. She’s raising kids, working full-time, and cooking dinner every night because her husband “doesn’t like leftovers.”

She said, Yeah… I guess I need to be a little selfish.

No. You don’t need to be a little selfish.

You need to be a lot more free.

The Lie We Were Fed About Being “Good”

We were taught that our worth came from being wanted. That being chosen meant we were enough.

So we shrunk. We smiled. We made ourselves useful. Palatable. Perfect.

We learned to anticipate needs before they were spoken. To carry the emotional weight of everyone around us. To make it all look effortless…while falling apart inside.

Because if you’re needed, you won’t be left. If you’re chosen, you must be good.

That’s the spell.

And it’s killing us.

The Cost of Being Chosen

Being chosen sounds like a dream.

But when your self-worth is wrapped in other people’s approval, you become exactly who they want - and forget who you are.

You perform softness, strength, grace, and grit. You meet expectations you never agreed to.

You cook meals when you’re empty. You answer messages when your body says stop. You say yes when every part of you is screaming no.

Because being seen as selfish feels more dangerous than being seen at all.

Reconnecting to the Part of You That Never Needed to Earn It

There’s a part of you that’s tired. Tired of pretending she’s okay. Tired of being useful instead of real.

She doesn’t need another productivity hack. She needs a home.

And the only one who can give it to her… is you.

This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about remembering the version of you that never needed fixing in the first place.

The one who knows rest is revolutionary. The one who doesn’t apologize for softness. The one who sees her own care as sacred, not selfish.

The Real Rebellion Is Reconnection

This isn’t self-help. It’s soul return.

When you stop waiting to be chosen, you choose yourself. And that’s when everything shifts.

You stop abandoning yourself to meet other people’s needs.

You stop seeing care as a luxury.

You stop trying to earn your own love.

And in that moment - quiet, holy, yours - you remember who you’ve always been:

Not broken. Not too much. Not selfish. Just sacred. Just whole. Just ready to come home.

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